A helpful list of handy Tinder hints

Tinder has changed our lives; well, the dating part of our lives at least. No longer do we have to get dressed, style our hair, go to a restaurant or bar, and talk to somebody. Now, we have this little contraption in our hands with a magical app that does all the work for us. We all know how it works: it’s GPS and age based. You select an area, say within 50 miles of you and an age bracket, let’s say 25-35. Ladies or fellas who meet those requirements will show up. You can give them your approval with a right swipe, or pass with a left swipe. If you both swipe right, you match up and are allowed to chat.

We all have different reasons for why we’re on Tinder. Some people want to find a long-term relationship. Some don’t even want a commitment that lasts longer than that night. Some people want love, some want friendship, some just want sex. And, it’s all good. You do you, and have fun with it.

But, there are some simple ground rules that we all need to abide by. You may only want one thing, but we’re all in this together. Respect, common courtesy and decency will go a long way.

With that, here is a handy, helpful list of Tinder Do’s and Do Not Do’s.

Pictures

img_3198Do: Have a clear, current picture of you to start off with. Let people know who you are and what you look like.

Do Not Do: Multiple group pictures. If the first picture is you and five other people, which one are you? And, if they’re all you and other people, then it implies that you’re trying to hide something; why can’t you just be you?

Do: A mix of serious and fun pictures. If you’re proud of your professional life, a picture of you doing something related to that is fine. If you like to go out and party, a picture of you at the bar with a drink in your hand won’t hurt. But, we don’t need six pictures that are all similar. Mix it up and give people a look at your life.

Do Not Do: Shirtless pictures. Yeah, you love your abs and want to show them off. But, here’s a tip: Don’t. Ladies don’t like it. If you have a lot of muscles, we can tell with your shirt on.

Do: Puppers. “I just swiped right for your dog” is a bio line that girls think is clever, but not when 95 percent of them all say it. But, it’s true. If you have a doggo, take a picture with her and make it prominent.

Do Not Do: Dead animals. If you like to hunt, just say that. A potential mate can overlook those ideological differences and like you for who you are. But, not if you’re sprawled out on a dead deer holding his lifeless corpse up by the antlers. Talk about a mood killer.

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Do: Give a thoughtful, honest representation of yourself. If you’re looking for something serious, mention it in your profile. Tell about your hobbies, career, dreams, anything that you think is interesting. A picture says a lot, but words are literally the definition of saying something.

Do Not Do: Be disgusting. There are clever, non-pornographic ways to say you’re just interested in sex. The sexiest organ is the brain. Use it.

Messaging

Do: Be fun, flirty and lighthearted. Start with a joke. A well-timed GIF is always welcome. Compliment a picture tastefully. You’re communicating with a new person; be on your best behavior.

Do Not Do: Be immediately crude. I would say roughly 98% of Tinder conversations are initiated by men. With that said, give the dirty talk a slow burn. Girls love to be filthy, too. But, they usually don’t like it within the first couple messages. Patience is a virtue. If you know how to properly talk to a woman, you will eventually get rewarded.

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This is not a comprehensive list by any means. It is merely a quick look at how to get started and better enjoy your Tinder experience. Has it been working for you? Got any other tips? Sound off in the comments section, over at Facebook or slide into my Twitter DM’s and let me know.

bigSitting in a packed newsroom, I often hear things going on around me. I didn’t think much of it when I was hearing talk of the Big Brothers Big Sisters of South Central West Virginia group losing a lot of funding. I didn’t know any details, and thought to myself, “Shame. But, that happens.”

Then I read the article. And then I got angry.

The group had somewhere between $60,000 to $80,000 in local grants taken away, and the Raleigh County office recently shut down due to them being unable to make up that money.

Why did they lose that money? Nobody can say for sure, but here’s what we know: the organization had recently received a $20,000 grant to assist with training staff members in LGBTQ issues.

From the original article, Sara McDowell, the local group’s executive director said about the grant:

“I said, ‘Yes, we would be interested,’ especially considering that, earlier this year, UCLA came out with a study that found West Virginia has the highest number of teens who identify themselves as transgendered,” McDowell said.

What happened shortly after that grant was announced? From McDowell: “[W]e were notified that a representative for several donors wanted to discuss issues we had been previously unaware of.”

She declined to announce who was rescinding their donations, but did note: “I don’t think the timing is coincidental,” McDowell said. “It is my opinion that the LGBTQ program was not going to be welcomed by the representative for those donors. That’s based on my experience with the donor representative and the conversations I’ve had with others.”

So, basically, what we have here is a situation where this group received money that would help them better meet the needs of LGBTQ kids in their care. After hearing that, some people got upset and pulled their funding.

There is one word for that: reprehensible. Well, there are a lot of other words I could use, but those may not be fit for print.

To the people who heard that their money was going to an organization that wants to help LGBTQ kids and decided to pull their funding: you are more disgusting than you could ever imagine homosexuality to be. You are what’s wrong with the world; not a boy who likes kissing another boy.

People like you are the reason that LGBTQ kids need this extra help and assistance. They feel ostracized in their community because of people stuck in some antiquated “Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve” way of living.

Because of your actions, if some of these LGBTQ kids do not get the assistance, help, or compassion that they need, I hope you’re ready for any consequences. If one of those kids doesn’t know what to do anymore and grabs a bottle of pills, ties a rope around their neck, or cocks a gun, I hope you know that the blood is on your hands.

This whole situation is disgusting, and I hope the names of those who took away their donations becomes public. Those are the people who need to be shamed and ostracized, not some innocent kids who are trying to discover who they are.